Group Discussion Contest - 10

[HELP]

TODAYS TOPIC ::



Are marriages becoming a business in india ?





Tips : You can
cover the points like .. Parents & youth attitude towords taking
dowry, Dowry issue in Rich , Middle & poor class families etc etc..






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[boopathiraja]

Hi everybody,

i accept this point. Now a days marriages going on tender. It is just like an agreement between two families. If a lady coming with money when marrying, she treats good. Otherwise she treats bad. She will meet many problems in her husband's house.

[keerthi]

hello freinds,


A must topic to be discussed i feel.Yes " Marraiges have become a good business" to earn lakhs and crores even.Today a guy u studies in US demands atleast 10 lakhs and the highest limit can be anything .I feel people prefer to do MS just to make business.


I heard about some people who are not ready even to see the girl ,If her parents cannot efford to give MIN amount ,though she is good at attitude studies and good looking as well.


I dont know what Marriage is to do with the money when both the persons have good qualifications to settle well in life.Infact the importance must be given to the people who are going to marry, the decision must be given to them bcoz they are the ones who are going to live together for the rest of the life.


Daily we see a lots of news about the women being harassed and killed just for the sake of dowry.What kind of person he is when he is ready to kill his partner for the sake of money.In my view such personsmust be given a death sentence.And govenment should take severe action on the persons who accept dowry.


We see many politicians daily giving long speeches against this issue,but what happens when it comes to his own daughtersor sons marriage,God only knows how much they give or take.


And some parents in the rich families take it as a prestige issue.I think they feel the one who takes/gives more money is very great.So i feel this system must be eliminated in rich families first.

[Vision]

I 100% agree with Keerthi .



Beggars are better than the people who takes dowry. Parents should change their
attitude towards taking dowry.

Even i have seen many girls who suggest their brothers to take dowry.

it is a sick attitude. Lot of males
playing with female life just because of dowry. We should punish the people who
takes dowry.



Its becoming a dangerous issue in poor class families . It is very sad to know
that even few idiots ready to kill their best half just for dowry. If they give
birth to a baby girl they are just throwing them in dustbin . Think for a while ?



These days 80% males want to study in US or want to work in US just to take
more dowry. what a sick attitude ? we have to punish these educated idiots.
Even i seen many of friends going to US or UK just to take more dowry.
Yes its 100% purely a business now in India in fact it is a growing
business.



As a guy my suggestion to other guys :[/b]



Marry a girl but not money. Money is sick it just come & go in our
life but your wife will stay with you till your final breath. You can not
measure a girl with money. She is more than any amount of money.. Its our
responsibility to protect them If not soon you will see a world with out these
angles







Start changing the attitude of your parents & sisters towards
taking dowry.


** Think of our culture once " INDIA is the only place where a female has a lot respect " But now wts happening ?









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[Dr YVS]

Well, I differ. Buisness has always a buyer, a seller.WHo is who here. As long as marraige is an institution and parents believe, they shal get a good bride(groom), they pay a price , Ise. To the extent of dowry oen can argue of buisness. Not tthe whole process. With the litearcy in women incresing , their % at jobs incresing, current day parent are worried on Love marraiges and related pains liek suicide, killing etc. MArraiegs are buisness to Marragie halls, Flower guys, Shamiana guys, caterers etc.

[sriya]

hi I do feel marriages have become a business in India. Marriage is not be seen as a business where the bridegroom is tagged an heavy price n the bride's parents want it to buy at any cost. Why should the bride's parents give dowry for the bridegroom n his family members????This is a burning issue which needs immediate attention. It's in our hand to se that the dowry problem gets curbed. Every man must think in a proper way, so that marriage can regain its lost sanctity.

[keerthi]

Yes i too feel marriage process is not business,it is to be respected a lot.But many are making it a business for the sake of dowry.


Why not all of us stop accepting/giving dowry when some people are killing the women for sake of money . Cant we give up this system for protecting many more lifes?. Ithink life is more important than money.


yes parents want to get good brides,but i think money is not the solution for that.Better understanding about each others families is important here. I think There is no need of bringing money matter here.Edited by: keerthi

[HELP]

Yeh we agree with you all



What are the better solutions for this problem ? Exaplin point wise if you can...



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[keerthi]

Theonly better solution is punishment ,bcoz this matter is related to money.


I feel We can expecta change inmany other matters .But greed for money cannot be wiped out completly.

[Vision]

Yeh it the biggest motive for all these people. These people
should know there are many things in our life which we can't get
through money.

[mohanraai]

Well Guys,

As all said is good. This problem begins with where, we have to note down. when the people went to brides home, first start a arguments ( How much dowry) with relatives and parents(especially mothers). So this will start with ladies only. if we start like this, once again it will create arguments in different way. So leave it and think. Now a days parents and people are living for society expectations. We have to live for ourself not for neibourhoods.

my suggestions is
1. This problem will rectify only future generation. if u give some suggestion to others can't get. so if u would like to marry don't get dowry and ur childrans.
2. give suggestions to ur close relatives others won't get ur suggestion. if they convinced, its ur power.

we can reduce this business also in future, if we take steps.

[links571]

As with everyone else even i agree that marriage is fast becoming a buiseness in india. this is not just the fault with the brides or groom s family but it is just the problems that links these issues. With unemployment increasing men are looking to make their life a little safer by indulging in these kind of activities. Educating people about this is in no way going to stop the problem because , it is the people who are educated who r making these mistakes. This can only be stopped by making them know their limitations of accessing money like this and strict regulations by the government. Youths should understand that following such stupid customs are just stupid. Making rules just wont stop these activities. But curbing people of having illicit income like these can be stopped and inturn dowry.


But there also exists the other kind of people who think marriage is larger than life and belive in each other. People should learn from their examples. This i think is the best way to curb the problem.


thank u

[keerthi]

I think this is a kind of prejudice among the people that only women [mother-in-law ] is the cause,well this is due to influence of old movies where the mother-in-law is the only one who is greedy and harasses the daughter-in-law .We cant say only women,but both are the cause .Any one can be greedy about money.


I appreciate the sugession given by mohanraai,And hope we all succed in eliminating dowry system in India.

[Madhuri]

I think marriages are becoming bussiness today. Change in attidue of the girls parents is must.While getting married to their daughter they should see whether the person is US returned or he can good pay but they should see whether that person is good and family is good and is he money minded?


Before all this even girl's attitud should also change. First she should be independend and she should be given chance while choosing life partner.

[sowmya571]

hello



Yes i do agree with all your views .. But can u all please
answer my question ..can we start punishing each n evry person
.... who does crimes like that .. In India where Govt is ruled by RICH
PEOPLE who have money n power well considering all these facts .. Some
things cant be changed .. Rather we can bring awareness amoungst ALL
GROUPS OF PEOPLE , CHILDREN, ELDERS AS WELL AS YOUNGSTERS
who will get married in future . Well as keerthi and others has said
... People are not even considering whether the female is gud , has got
gud capabilities.. rather than asking so much dowry ....what ever might
be .... CHANGE SHUD HAPPEN WITH IN EACH OF US .. so that we will
be an example for future citizens ....



this is wat i feel realistically